Self-Pleasure Basics - How to really gain supreme confidence in dating (and in life)

You can only be confident in your sexiness – truly confident – if you know your body inside and out.

And self-pleasure is possibly THE best way to do that.

Imagine that you trusted your body completely, that you knew exactly what she wanted and needed at any time, and that you felt safe in your own sexiness. I'm talking about YOU being in charge here, no one else. 

Would that make you feel confident in dating? Hell yes! 

Would that make you feel confident in bed? That's another hell yes!! (Even got 2 exclams)

And that confidence radiates into your whole life.

Love junkie or love cynic? This could be stopping you from being in (true) love.

There are some that are addicted to the fantasy of love. These are the Romantics. They believe wholeheartedly in an idealised relationship. A starry-eyed kind of love that looks and feels like it does in the movies. 🤩

You just need to find ‘the one’.

And with this perfect other, everything is easy and breezy and good and makes us feel whole.

….Wait, what?!....

I was chatting with Shelby Leigh, and listening in quiet disbelief as she described her most recent work in a decade-long career as a somatic psychotherapist, meditation teacher and certified coach.

Was Shelby seriously telling me that there are people out there that still believe the myth of Romanticism? 🙀

Maybe you, dear reader, are one of these tender hearted optimistic people.

If so, I’d love to hear from you.  

You see, I’m more used to the words of the ‘love cynics’. Those who have come to resign themselves to the fact that there is most likely not a ‘one.’ They believe more in the chance (maybe it’s even their deepest fear) that there is actually NO one out there for them. 😶

In fact, if you are like I was, single for what feels like forEVER, you’d definitely be more convinced that NO one is the only ‘one’ you might ever know.

And perhaps have even begun to resign yourself to that fact.

Anyway, all of your friends in relationships just complain about them anyway. So you wonder whether or not it’s even worth it to stay subscribed to this newsletter.

Well, I’ve invited Shelby to tell us about her experience working with the Romantics, or ‘love junkies’ as she calls them. Because what she’s learned about helping them find love applies to us cynics as well. 🧐⚡

As is mentioned in this wonderful article, ‘How Romanticism Ruined Love’, from the School of Life,

“We need to piece together a post-Romantic theory of couples, because in order to make a relationship last we almost have to be disloyal to the Romantic emotions that get us into it in the first place.

The idea of being ‘post-Romantic’ shouldn’t imply cynicism; that one has abandoned the hope of relationships ever working out well. The post-Romantic attitude is just as ambitious about good relationships, but it has a very different sense of how to honour the hopes.”

In this video Shelby and I discuss how you can begin to form a beautiful relationship full of love that lasts over time whilst knowing that nothing is ever perfect.

And perhaps it’s the imperfection itself that is what is exactly right for us. 😌

You’ll learn some simple practices that Shelby uses with her clients to great effect.

So much so that even as ‘love junkies’ fall once again into love, they stumble along with the best of us having learned how to navigate the sometimes turbulent, sometimes blissful waters of real love. 🐳

Learn 3 simple practices - master the Art of Receiving and Fall into Love

The other night I went out swing dancing with some friends. I love the place we go to as there’s a live swing band playing some of my favourite music from another time and place.

The crowd is a real mix of people. Hipsters twirl together with old timers dressed in finery from another era – it can really take you to another place.

I accepted a dance from one of my favourite gentlemen in the place. He must be at least 80 years old or so and he is a fantastic lead.

And I am a fantastic follower.

But this didn’t happen overnight.
You see, it took me quite some time to learn the delicate balance of give / take in the dance. And what my part as a follower would be in it.  

My part is to know my steps. But even more important than this is to listen carefully to the journey that the lead is creating. He has in his mind from one moment to the next what shapes we’ll create and what movements we’ll swing into. And if I didn’t listen carefully, our togetherness breaks.

It took me a long time to learn to follow because most of my life (which was me, single and dancing alone) I was the lead.

And in many ways, I liked it this way. I decided what to do when and how. At work. At play.

But it was also exhausting.

I wondered what life might look like, and how the dance would be if there was someone else there with me. 😌

What if they were leading (frightening thought) even if just for a few moments. What would that look like?

What if they messed up?

What if I messed up?

What if I couldn’t follow?

What if I didn’t like where they were going? Or how they were getting there?

And what would I be as a (lowly) follower? 🤨

I was reminded when dancing with my wonderful octogenarian lead, what it was like to be on the receiving end of a man who knows where he’s going and what he’s doing.

I could relax into the moment. I closed my eyes, let by body listen to the sensitive yet clear signalling of his hands in mine, and dropped completely into the music and the moment. Bliss! ✨

Was I perfect? No! I messed up loads of times. And threw my head back in laughter (even to be able to do this – laugh at the mess-ups especially when there was another person involved – took lots of years of practice).

What about him? Patiently and with an amused smile, my lead would get us back on track with that clear, constant signalling of a slight shift of his hand in mine. He had it covered. 🎩

If you give a man the chance, they will add pleasure to your life. And be so happy to do so. Because when they care about you, even just a little, your pleasure is magic to them.

But learning to receive gifts from gentlemen (and even sometimes their lead) takes training. 🧘‍

In fact, for women, learning to receive ANYTHING from just about anyone, is not easy. Tonight I’ll talk about why this is.

WHAT YOU’LL LEARN

In this video I teach you 3 simple ways to begin to receive more easily in life. Especially from men.

So that when a man steps up to give to you, whether that be a simple invitation to dance, or even just to hold open the door, you are ready to receive this gift of pleasure into your life. And know the power in it. For both of you.

And to help you with the first step, download this { FREE } Playbook ‘How to Find Good Guys’ here.

Resilience: a key quality for thriving whilst dating

I’ve invited ‘healthy hedonist’ and Integrated Sex, Love and Relationships coach, yoga teacher, writer, speaker and women’s health expert Ruth Sowter to speak about…

Resilience.

Wait, what? Seems like a bit of a strange topic for a hedonist who’s to teach us about getting all googly-eyed over someone, wouldn’t you say?

The truth of the matter is that dating can feel like a tough game. And the beginning months of a new relationship like a trip down a rocky road with blind corners at every stop.

Ruth speaks about how Resilience is an essential skill to hone so that you can experience dating in a more healthy way.

The skills you learn in being resilient will translate to relationship as you transition over from dating to mating. 🥂

Staying with all of the myriad emotions you feel (from interest and curiosity to excitement and nervousness to insecurity and questioning to name a few) as you meet new people and get to know them can be very challenging and quite confusing.

Ruth teaches 3 easy ways to begin to develop Resilience so that you can feel more open and ready for love...and more steady AND sexy on a date. 

1. Create a pre-date ritual – For more on pre-date rituals, visit 3 pre-date rituals that will make you rock it on a date

2. Have a full life – Outside of dating

3. Practice boundaries – How to say 'yes' or 'no' to a next date

Watch the video for the details and wisdom. 

Pleasure: the best thing to do for your health

“Consider a discipline of pleasure to be an investment in your health. A joyful heart and a body that experiences pleasure and nurturing are your most reliable health insurance.”

Dr. Christiane Northrup, Goddesses Never Age, The Secret Prescription for Radiance, Vitality and Wellbeing

I love this book by physician Dr. Christiane Northrup. You might have read her other best-seller and classic, “Women’s Bodies, Women’s Wisdom”. Somehow I skipped that one and came right to “Goddesses Never Age”. ✨

And I’m glad I did. (Though I do plan on reading “Women’s Bodies, Women’s Wisdom” too.)

Dr. Northrup writes about the scientific evidence that supports what I’ve learned through experience to be true: that healing happens through experiencing pleasure in your body on a regular basis.

This is what I find most interesting about this phrase in the quote above, 'Discipline of pleasure'. We're very good about being disciplined at work, with family responsibilities, paying the bills. 

I'm asking you to begin to bring some of the spirit of discipline, making something a priority and dedicating yourself to it, to the pleasure you experience in your life. It will change your body, your mind and your soul. 

And whilst pleasure doesn’t necessarily have to be sexual for you to feel the benefits, it’s definitely one of the most beautiful ways to experience blissful states of being – and as a result, fantastic health.

What you'll learn

In this video, I introduce you to a super sensual and oh so delicious tantric ritual that will get you right to the epicentre of pleasure: your body.

Sexual pleasure is an experience of all of the senses which are accessed through our body. The more you can drop into your body in sex whether solo or in company, the more pleasure you will experience.

And the more pleasure you experience, the healthier you will be.

Love Stories: How the jade egg helped one woman find love

"All relationships are a mirror of the one we have with ourselves, and by upgrading our inner landscape we upgrade the outer landscape."

This wisdom comes from Marilu Snyders, a Self-Love & Jade Egg Coach and founder of Fire Maya based in Cape Town, South Africa.

Marilu lives this truth and it’s reflected in her own journey from perpetual singledom to beautiful love with the support of some good coaching and a healthy and a simple, easy jade egg practice. 🌈

It wasn’t such an easy start though. Marilu’s jade egg lay unexplored on her bedside table for about 3 months (I think my first egg collected dust for a similar amount of time). 

It seems that many women who actually own a jade never actually use it. Some (like me) are too afraid to get the thing inside of them. 

Others of us are so accustomed are some of us to vibrating toys that sing and dance, this little stone seems to go unnoticed when it finally makes its way inside of our bodies.

We wait...and...feel nothing. NOTHING! 🤨

Marliu talks us through how she was able to work past the disappointment of her initial experience with the egg to go on to develop a practice that transformed her life in so many incredible ways. 

She teaches you her secret formula for setting up your own personal jade egg practice so that you too can bring some radical change to your life. 🦋

Re-wild yourself and experience your fullest potential for pleasure

NOTE: In my excitement, I mistakenly introduced Veda as a psychoanalyst. She's not! She's a psychoTHERAPIST. Very different. 

I met Veda few years back on our Coaching Certification program with Layla Martin. I remember the fire, the light, the aliveness in this woman – and her incredible capacity to take other women on a journey from shut down to wide awake, vibrant and sparkling. ✨

She’s been doing this for years, and as I only work with the best, I felt she’d be an excellent guest to help teach you how to come alive and, in her own words, ‘Rewild yourself’.

Rewilding is finding your way back to your unique, authentic sexuality that exists beneath the stuff that keeps us from experiencing it.

The conditioning (familial, societal), stress, and trauma (sexual or otherwise) can show up as numbness, disconnection from the body, lack of desire, or inability to experience pleasure or orgasm.

Veda shares with us her own story from feeling shutdown to sensationally sexy.

And she teaches you 3 practical, easy and simple ways for you to get there. 🦋

Links to things mentioned in the video:

Veda on Insta: wildjadewomen

Embody the Wild Workshop - tickets and information

The Jade Egg Demystified

Wild woman, let me hear you roar!

I’ve invited Sharif Joynson, an embodiment coach for men and a martial arts master 🤺  to talk to you about what it is that makes a woman so damn sexy to guys that are really worth it. (He should know...he's worked with loads of men who tell him why). 

Embodying the qualities that Sharif will describe tonight will not only make you feel more sexy, but they will help you to feel more powerful and alive in all areas of your life. 

💎 You’ll live more truthfully than you ever have. 

💎 And move from a space of complete confidence and deep inner knowing. 

💎 And there is no deeper satisfaction than living a life from this place. 

You’ve already got the wild in you. It’s just a matter of bringing this part of you to life. 

Of feeling it throughout your body as you expand into it – and yourself, fully.

Watch the video to learn how to begin to awaken the Wild within you.

Anatomy of Arousal Part IV: The A-spot & the Anus (yep, you're bum)

A is for…2 parts of your body specially equipped for pleasure

Both of these areas of your anatomy are lesser known than the ones we’ve spoken about thus far, the clitoris and G-spot.

Yet I'm telling you, they are both very very special. 

One of these areas lies very deep inside of your vagina and when a woman orgasms from here (and I speak from experience), it is profound, deeply emotional and takes you to another dimension entirely – there are almost no words for it. 🌺

The other area of your body I speak about holds the second highest concentration of nerve endings found in your body making it very sensitive to the touch – and potentially very pleasurable. The only problem is that our society and culture have made it entirely taboo to explore this place – for men and women both. 

This is such a shame, as by doing so we remove from ourselves access to pleasure that is unique from other flavours of it. 

I’ll challenge you to begin to explore this part of your beautiful body. Or to at least begin to consider it in a different light. 🧐 😊

Anatomy of Arousal Part III: The G-Spot

The G-spot and squirting go hand-in-hand. And like much of female sexuality have been shrouded in doubt and darkness for too long. 

So I created this video to not only clear up where the G-spot is, but also shed light on WHAT exactly it is. 

AND how when stimulated properly, it's equipped with a very special function: squirting! 💦

If you are asking yourself what squiring is, the you are not alone. According to Deborah Sundahl, the queen of the G-spot and female ejaculation (a.k.a. squirting), 60% of women suppress or deny themselves the pleasure of this beautiful bodily function because...they mistake it for having to pee during sex! 😱

By stopping yourself from squirting, you are often stopping yourself from experiencing your full pleasure, as you are in fact, blocking yourself from going over into orgasm.

I know that you are probably like me – you like to know you live your life to the fullest potential. And that should include your experience of pleasure in your body.

I’ve heard that ‘gushing orgasms’ are exceptional for many women (I'm currently working on teaching myself to squirt), and I’d like to know if the same is true for me. 

Watch this vid to learn the ins and outs of your G-spot and what squirting is. I also give some tips on who to go to to learn from the best about this beautiful part of our pleasure. 

Anatomy of Arousal Part II: The Clit + Co

Known as the crown jewel of our pleasure anatomy, the clitoris is pretty special. ✨

She has more nerve endings than anywhere else in both the female and male anatomy, making her highly sensitised, uniquely exquisite and full of potential pleasure. 

She’s also the only organ in our bodies (male and female both), that seems designed purely for...yes, pleasure.

Hallelujah! What a gift. 

What most of us don’t know is that she has some major support in generating pleasure. 😮

There are a few other parts of our bodies that live very close by her that also are covered in erectile tissue and as a result feel super good when they are properly stimulated. 

In this video I talk about:

• The clit: the crown jewel herself 💎

• Two other mystery parts that support her in bringing us pleasure and joy (I can almost guarantee you’ve never heard of them)

• How to touch yourself in ways that make this gorgeous triad happy

I hope this helps you to experience the fullest, most turned on life possible. Because you sure as hell are equipped for it! 

Anatomy of Arousal Part 1: The Basics

I share with you the basics of our beautiful and perfect anatomy so that you can experience all of the pleasure that it is built for.

We women know so little about how our bodies work. And yet, we live with them day in and day out.

I’ll venture to say that we know so little about what brings us pleasure and what makes us feel good because we receive so little guidance on it and a lot of not so helpful gunk from the world around us in the form of messaging (eg Sex is sinful and only sluts like it) and bogus science (Does the G-spot even exist)?

And yet we are equipped from birth (every woman is, there are no exceptions) to experience states of orgasm that literally take to places of immense beauty and exquisiteness.

I share with you in this video, the basics of our beautiful and perfect anatomy so that you know your body intimately.

So that you are empowered to access pleasure by understanding how it works on a physical level in your body so that you can experience greater states of orgasm and pleasure.

Because pleasure is your birthright. Because it’s incredible. And because you deserve it.

The jade egg demystified - an ancient sex tool goes mainstream

It took me months and months before I had the courage to use the jade egg for the first time. You see, I was never really that comfortable with putting tampons in, so how the hell was I going to get this little egg-shaped stone into my body?

No one in my family was comfortable with the word ‘sex’, never mind having a whole discussion about it. So putting ANYTHING in our bodies, even a tampon, always felt shameful and wrong.

Sound familiar?

I was determined however, to get over this. It was blocking me from really experiencing my fullest potential in sex and love and I knew it. My phobia of self-pleasure and touching myself sexually had to go if I wanted maximum confidence in myself. And I knew that the jade egg was a way to get there. 

The first step, I learned, in getting me to feel more comfortable about all of this was learning exactly what the jade egg was, where it came from, where it would land inside of my body and what precisely it would do for me once it was there.

In this video, I talk about the benefits of a jade egg practice. And how it’s been used for thousands of years to help women (and how it can now help you) to:

• amplify your pleasure in sex

• increase your orgasmic potential

• and bring you back to wholeness

• feel more alive

• awaken your sexiness

And I cover some of the basics like:

What is a jade egg? 

It’s and egg-shaped stone made of jade. It’s that simple.

What do you do with it? 

Think of this like yoga for your vagina. You use it internally and perform a series of practices that help to not only strengthen your muscles (which in and of itself increases your orgasmic potential). 

How does it work exactly? 

A regular jade egg practice includes a series of physical exercises. For example squeezing + releasing around the egg when it sits at various points in your vagina from close to the pelvic floor to up near the cervix. 

It also includes supportive mind / body practices to help you to release conditioning and build a healthy relationship to your sexuality and your body. 

What are the results of a regular jade egg practice?

• It builds a strong mind / body connection so critical in how much pleasure you experience in sex

• Supports you in letting go of any limiting thoughts or beliefs about yourself and your body that keep you from experiencing maximum pleasure

• Brings you back to a healthy vibrant state of wholeness physically and mentally

• Gives you more energy and vibrancy in all parts of your life

If you’d like to be informed about my upcoming Jade Egg course, send me an email and I’ll add you to the list: andrea@lushcoaching.com

Love. Andrea

4 ways to bring yourself from shut-down to turned-on

If you are reading this, you’ve most likely grown up in the pre-Moana age, where dashing men on snow-coloured horses woke us from long slumbers or saved us from burning towers to whisk us away to...the distance. 

Sex isn’t really a topic bridged in our Disney-fantasy land so we don’t really know what ‘should’ go on after this other than the understanding that birds and bees have something to do with it. That we’re sure of. 🐝

Hollywood picks up the plot where Disney leaves off. It paints another picture full of explosive OOOOooo yes!! orgasms after only seconds of frantic foreplay, if any. This is yet another myth in perpetual creation of a certain flavor of sex that is only a mere sliver of what the experience of lovemaking can be. 

The residue of these stories are alive and kicking deep in our psyches. And so when love and lovemaking doesn’t happen this way (and it almost always doesn't), then what? 

I invited Laura Lommers as a guest on this FB Live, as I felt that her story would help you to understand that even if you find the ‘perfect man’, your ‘prince charming’ of sorts, he is not necessarily responsible for the pleasure you will feel in sex, no matter how good of a lover he is. 👑

Nor is he entirely responsible for how you experience sex and whether you Ooooo yes! or not.  

But….but… I know…..How is this possible, you ask?

When Laura met her ‘Prince Charming’, the man she would marry, the love of her life, her body shut down. Her experience of pleasure shut down. Her desire for making love dropped to zero.

It made no sense.

When she realised why this was happening, she would go on to have a beautiful relationship and vibrant (if not perfect) sex life with her gorgeous husband. 🌷

I’ve asked Laura to share her story with you and the ways in which is re-ignited pleasure in her own body. She now teaches this to her clients as a Sensual Pleasure Coach, so it's a chance to hear from a pro who's been there.

This is how you can own your sexiness and experience pleasure whether you are single or dating or married. 

And how you absolutely do not need to rely on another person to get you there.

The real secret to absolute confidence in dating (and life)

Self-pleasure. 

Yup, That's the secret. And I'm going to stand behind this bold statement because it's so true.

You can only be confident in your sexiness – truly confident – if you know your body inside and out. 

Sometimes this means understanding your anatomy better so you feel less 'in the dark' about what's going on in there. 

Sometimes it means knowing what turns you on. What gets you pumping the break. And what causes you to slam down so hard on that thing that the whole entire beautiful machine that is your body and your voyage to pleasure comes to a screeching halt. 

And sometimes it means learning to feel safe in our own bodies.

Imagine that you trusted your body completely, that you knew exactly what she wanted and needed at any time, and that you felt safe in your own sexiness. I'm talking about YOU being in charge here, no one else. 

Would that make you feel confident in dating? Hell yes! 

Would that make you feel confident in bed? That's another hell yes!! (Even got 2 exclams)

Developing a self-pleasure practice is key. And by practice I mean just that:

• Something that you do regularly so you get good at it

• Something that you PRACTICE at. That means sometimes falling down, sometimes not having it be what you thought it was, sometimes not knowing what the hell you are doing.

• Because you are learning

In this video I give some basic steps into getting started with self-pleasure. 

If you don't know where to begin, start here. 

So much love to you!

5 essential ingredients to tell you if your date is long-term material

Learn how your ‘dating relationship’ can tell you about your chances for it lasting long-term in beautiful bliss.

Your dating experience with someone RIGHT NOW can help determine where it’s headed. 

I’ve created this { FREE } Scoresheet to help you measure your chances: https://www.lushcoaching.com/longtermlove

There are 5 essential ingredients that are the key to beautiful long-term relationships, according to the professionals. And some of them might surprise you.

The good news is that even if you score a bit low with some of the ‘ingredients’, you can definitely work on strengthening them and making your relationship stronger for it, even if you are just beginning to date.

Fact of the matter is, if you want to be in a relationship where you will thrive, you’ll need these in place to get you there. 

I thought that having shared interests was vital to a long-lasting relationship (or at least pretty important I would have thought), but that’s not what the experts say. Well, not exactly. 

Tell me what you think in the comments below. 

Are relationships (the long-lasting, hot and sexy kind) really worth it? Part 2

How to choose the right person for long-term hot, sexy, beautiful love.

Let me ask you this: do you trust yourself to choose the right partner in love? 💝

Or are you confused by the options? 

Does your body tells you one thing (hubba hubba). 🤪 And your mind another (stay far away from this one, bad news!!)? 🤨 Or vice versa. 

This is totally normal. And also frustrating and downright confusing! 

Download this { FREE } bonus Cheat Sheet:

14 typical questions 🦖 + 3 not-so-typical tips 🐒 to use on dates so you know if it’s really worth it

So many women that I speak with feel like they’ve chosen poorly in the past and now lack the confidence to move forward with (or step away from) guys that they are dating. 

In this video we explore together:

⭐ How to know who and what is good for you

⭐ How to sift through the sand to find the gold nugget you might be missing

⭐ How to get your support crew in place to help you play in this game of love

We’ll talk about biology, our brains, why we’re attracted to the ‘wrong’ people, and how to move beyond it towards a relationship with someone that feels hot and sizzly and that is built to last over time.

✨Move beyond biology and instinct by embracing both and adding a bit of consciousness to the mix. ✨

💝The building blocks of a good strong relationship begin in dating. And knowing how to ‘date well’ is critical to finding the love you want.

Are relationships (the long-lasting, hot and sexy kind) really worth it? Part 1

Part 1 of a 3 part series: Relationships, why bother?

Do you ever wonder if relationships are really even worth it?

Society and culture give us mixed messages and biology (hubba hubba) sometimes tells us something else altogether. How are we supposed to know what it is that we really, truly want at the end of the day?

In this video we discover what is really going on with you by helping you to:

• understanding the confusion around wanting a relationship or not

• defining what it is you really truly do want and why exactly

• then taking some steps towards getting it

Get clear on what you want. Download this {FREE} Playbook.

I myself have been conflicted over the years.

Culture says: It’s good to be independent, me first! Who needs a relationship to be fulfilled?

vs.

Society says: The facts: 70% of Americans describe themselves as being in a ‘committed relationship..umm…that’s a majority.

So why are they doing it? Watch the video for more insights.

I myself realized that my indecision around relationships was cover-up for what was lying at very deep levels: a desire for a super special, super exceptional person that I could explode my life experience with exponentially.

It just seemed like too much to ask for. And it wasn’t coming. So better to just keep on with the…well, who really needs it. After all, I wasn’t doing so badly on my own.

Only thing was I really, really wanted to learn and grow in a way you can only if you are in an intimate, loving, relationship over time – however long that may be.

And at last, I got it.

So now I get to work on all the challenges that relationships carry. Bring it on! Is what I say.

Build Supreme Confidence in Dating - Part 3

Here's Part 3 of the three part of this FB LIVE series on mastering dating you'll move into calculated action to become supremely confident in dating. 

You'll learn a technique that will re-wire your brain so that being confident feels natural.

Get the { FREE } Playbook for Part 3

You'll bring together everything you learned in Part 1 and in Part 2 to:

- Take care of the parts of you holding you back so they step aside gracefully. Love. Always.

- Take action! Define some concrete things that you can do immediately to move you forward.

- Call in the troops: build up the parts of yourself that can support you.

- Call in the reinforcement: Clean up or reinforce your support system of family + friends

Oooommmm...You'll find yourself becoming a supremely confident master of yourself...And of dating

SHARE this with those you think could use it. ❤️

Catch me every Wednesday at 8PM GMT on Facebook Live where I talk about all things love, sex + relationships: fb.me/andrealushlife

Build Supreme Confidence in Dating - Part 2

Part 2 of a 3 Part FB LIVE series (fb.me/andrealushlife) on how to uncover what is really blocking you from feeling confident by deep diving into your body – it holds the answer! 

Take notes in this Playbook for Part 2 – it'll help you record and remember what you learn as we go along. 

Get the { FREE } Playbook for Part 2

I now manage the ebbs and flows of dating (and of life) by learning how to recognize and become intimately familiar with the parts of me that hold me back from really going for it. 

And you can do it too. 

Often what holds us back are bits of us that are trying to look out for us – they just don't feel like it's going to be safe for us to have exactly what we want, whether that's a relationship or just to have a really good time on a date! 

Might sound a bit crazy, but I've seen through coaching numerous clients and in going through the process countless times, that this is it. Simple, right? 

Good news is that once you recognize and understand these parts of you, you can take care of them so that they quietly step to the side as you move forwards towards supreme confidence. Oh, yeah! 

There are also supports within you that you can call on for help. We'll begin to uncover these too in this 2nd part. 

It will be in Part 3 though where we really give our supports the permission to really flex their muscles and show us the superpowers they have. 

For everyone it's different. What you uncover and what you hold inside of you to fuel your confidence is yours alone. Once you get to know yourself this intimately, the open sea of dating will feel less daunting and you won't feel so frustrated, lost, confused or alone out there. 

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