My erotic signature is sensual with undertones of the energetic. Therefore, I’m highly sensitive and easily turned on or off by anything that moves through my senses, including scent.
And in fact, all of us are in some way, influenced by the power of scent when it comes to desire. And I’m asked how true this is quite often, especially in my work as a dating coach.
Here’s what’s true, and what’s not about fragrance and attraction.
Do pheromones or fragrance choices actually play a role in romantic attraction?
They might — and even if “human pheromones” are still debated in science, the truth is, scent absolutely influences attraction.
Smell taps directly into the emotional part of our brain, bypassing logic and reason. It can create an instant “yes” or “no” feeling about someone — before a single word is spoken.
While scientists continue to explore how much of that is down to chemistry and / or psychology, what’s clear is that our natural body scent and fragrance choices affect how we connect.
Some people are magnetically drawn to another’s scent. For others, a mismatch can make even the most compatible relationship or date feel off. It’s one of those subtle but powerful forces that shape intimacy, connection, and even long-term attraction.
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Can wearing a certain fragrance increase attractiveness or confidence?
Absolutely. A fragrance can be an invisible accessory — a subtle but powerful way to express your mood, confidence, or sensuality.
The scent you wear affects how you feel, and that in turn changes how you move and interact. When you feel grounded, sexy, or playful, that energy becomes magnetic. You radiate confidence — and others feel it.
Choosing a fragrance is really about tuning into your inner world. Do you want to feel soft and open? Strong and seductive? Calm and centred? Let your fragrance mirror that intention.
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Is it normal to feel turned off by a partner’s scent, even if everything else fits?
Yes — and it’s more common than most people realise. You might adore someone’s personality, looks, or energy, but if their natural scent doesn’t sit right with you, it can be hard to feel fully attracted.
That’s not shallow — it’s biological. Our sense of smell is tied to deep, instinctive processes that signal compatibility and comfort.
The olfactory system — the part of the brain that processes scent — has a direct neural pathway to the limbic system, the area in the brain responsible for emotion, memory, and motivation. Unlike sight or sound, smell doesn’t pass through the rational, filtering parts of the brain first.
That’s why scent can trigger instant feelings — comfort, desire, nostalgia, or even repulsion — before we consciously understand why. You can’t talk yourself into liking someone’s scent, either you do or you don’t.
How much fragrance should someone wear on a date? When does it become overpowering?
Less is always more. You want your scent to invite someone closer, not overwhelm them before you even say hello.
A light spritz on pulse points — wrists, neck, maybe behind the knees — is usually plenty. Think trace, not trail. The most captivating scents are discovered up close, rather than announced from across the room knocking everyone over at first whiff.
I’m actually quite allergic to most heavy perfumes, and very much appreciate when a light touch is applied versus being asphyxiated by someone drenched in it.
Do people respond differently to scent when it comes to attraction?
Yes — and that’s part of what makes it so fascinating. What smells irresistible to one person may feel heavy or unpleasant to another.
Our reactions to scent are personal, shaped by biology, memory, and even culture. One fragrance might remind you of summer holidays and warmth; another might trigger a memory of safety or love.
That’s why the most attractive scent is the one that makes you feel most yourself. When you wear something that aligns with your natural chemistry and personality, it feels authentic — and authenticity is deeply attractive.
How can someone express their personality through fragrance while dating or mating?
Fragrance is a subtle, sensual form of self-expression. It tells a story before you speak.
If you’re playful and curious, light citrus or soft florals might reflect that. If you’re more grounded and passionate, woody, musky, or amber notes might feel like home. Choose a scent that mirrors who you are in that moment, not who you think you should be to impress someone else.
When your scent feels true to you, it naturally draws in people who are aligned with your authentic energy.
Are there any scents that tend to have a positive effect while dating?
Yes — but remember, it’s personal. Generally, scents that feel clean, warm, and subtle tend to be well-received: light florals, gentle citrus, soft vanilla, or notes that evoke freshness and approachability.
My own favourites are scents that remind me of skin warmed by the sun and carry me back to the beach, lazy days under the summer sunshine, and the salty-breezes of Cape Cod in Massachusetts where I grew up.
But the real key is comfort. If a fragrance makes you feel sensual and confident, that’s what others will pick up on. Your confidence is the scent they’ll remember most.
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Final Thoughts
Scent is one of the quietest yet most powerful ways we communicate attraction. It’s the language of the subconscious and of the body — primal, emotional, and often beyond words.
When you feel good in your own skin — and scent — attraction becomes effortless. Your authentic sensual is experienced.
If you’re ready to reconnect with your sensual confidence or explore how your erotic signature influences the way you love and relate, you can book a private consultation orwork with me online or in London.