I used to really hold back in bed.

I was afraid of what my neighbours might think if I made too much noise.

I was afraid of the noises that wanted to come out – some of them were veeeerrrrryyyy far from sexy.

And so I’d clamp down on my vocal cords and barely let out a peep during the whole event.

Knowing what I know now, that was totally CRAZY.

When you open your body fully to allow for the free-flow of energy through it, you allow for the full and full-bodied experience of pleasure.

Opening your body up fully involves letting loose your voice.

And not just the performance-based sounds you hear in films and movies. You’ll want to work with the full range of sound available to you to understand what enables the best sexual response.

This has been my personal experience AND there’s science behind it.

Visceral sounding that comes from deep within you can trigger the vagus nerve, one of the main nerves that runs throughout your whole body from your brain all the way down to your cervix, uterus and vagina.

The ups and downs, the rhythms, the tonality and range of your voice can activate this nerve, increase its connections within the body and facilitate orgasm and pleasure.

The vagus nerve supports relaxation in your body. It gets you out of the ‘fight flight freeze’ state which inhibits sexual arousal.

As you relax, your sexual energy is free to move like an electrical current through your vagus nerve all up and down your body.

Once I allowed myself to ‘sound’ freely, my whole experience of sex changed.

But it didn’t just happen over night. It took some practice.

How to use sound in sex:

Mind preparation

Let go of judgement.

Don’t worry about what the neighbours will think, what your partner will think, or even what you think about the sounds that come forth.

This is a grand experiment and we’re here to learn, not to perform at the Scala.

So we want free-form and lots of trial and error.

Repeat this mantra throughout your practice:

It’s good to sound.

Heart preparation

Accept yourself for whatever you experience.

And for whatever your ‘sexy sounds’ are – they’ll likely be very different from the Hollywood version. When was anything that came from Hollywood real anyway?

It’s sexual linguistics - we’re here to learn what yours sounds like.

Love yourself for even going there. Like a sexy explorer, you’re out to experience pleasure like it’s never been experienced before! And that takes courage, humility and bravery.

You’ve got all of that!! Go for it.

Repeat this mantra throughout your practice:

It’s beautiful to sound.

Body preparation

Let your jaw drop open.

Inhale and exhale out of your mouth.

Bring your focus to different parts of your body – to your pussy, to your breasts, to your belly, to your legs.

Notice the sensations there and then…SOUND THEM OUT.

Give your womb a voice, your ovaries, your vagina, your labia and move throughout your entire body.

Your entire body is an instrument of erotic bliss.

Wake it up with sound.

And experiment!!

Repeat this mantra throughout your practice:

It’s safe to sound.

Enjoy the liberation that sounding in sex brings.

Curious to know if it works for men too? Read my post on sounding for men here.