Dating feels easier, relationships and connection flow more easily, and you experience a greater sense of wholeness, nourishment and satisfaction when you tap into pleasure. 2 minute practices to get you on the path to pleasure.
All about lube Part 1 - why you need it and what that means
3 steps to have more success in love in 2021
Scheduling sex is not only normal…it’s sexy. Here's why.
3 sexy summertime aphrodisiacs
Jade Egg Basics : What is this little stone all about. And why should you care?
Let your voice be heard in bed – and experience more pleasure
Sound: use it to experience wild, full-bodied pleasure for men
Maximising Pleasure : The 5 stages of lovemaking
3 ways to experience more pleasure (and less pain) in sex
When it comes to accessing your pleasure, all it takes is a shedding. A shedding of that which blocks you from feeling pleasure fully – or at all.
Over the years, battle with the world, past relationships, rejections, sexual confusion, negative messaging from society and culture around sex and our sexiness is collected in our bodies.
We build up a kind of protective shield like body armour to batten up our defences – and to stop us from feeling the yuck of all of that.
Problem is, it also closes us off to the good stuff – the nuanced experience of exquisite sensuality – and from the experience of orgasm.
So we end up feeling nothing at all in sex (with ourselves or with others).
Or intense physical pain and discomfort during sex – exactly the opposite of what we hope to experience!
Good news is, you can learn to unlock your body and shed the armour you’ve built up. Peel off the layers. Feel sensations of pleasure and connection with ourselves and our partners.
Here are 3 ways to start the process of de-armouring your body:
Breathe
Breathe into the parts of you that are stuck or numb or in pain. Imagine that the breath softens these places in you, relaxes them, and that you are breathing in space into your body.
Sound
Give voice to whatever you are feeling. Allow whatever sounds that want to emerge to come out. With no judgement on what or how it’s sounding. It’s all welcome.
Safety + Love
Reinforce a sense of safety and love in your body by reminding yourself that you are in fact safe (as long as this is true and you are physically and emotionally in a safe place.
Remind yourself that it is safe to feel. Safe to cry. Safe to be vulnerable. Safe to express whatever is there even if it doesn’t look or feel nice.
And love yourself for going there.
Feel into your heart as you repeat to yourself – You are safe. You are loved. I love you.
Remember that this is a journey that takes time. Every body is different. Every timeline is different.
Know that whatever you experience, wherever you are with this, is exactly right.
You are perfect.
Katie Phillips on Learning to be Intimate
Katie shares how she drew love in by learning how to love men – and herself.
Wisdom comes in so many forms.
This time it’s shaped in the form of Katie Phillips, transformational coach, self-love expert + author.
Katie is incredible to learn from. One of the best in fact, as she’s internalised now embodies what she’s experienced in love and relationships – the challenges that life has offered her.
Mindfulness in the Bedroom – Connecting Deeply
How to Receive Easily + Let in Love
Solo Tantra 101 - Polarity: Get the sparks flying
My first 3 years of learning tantra were when I was single.
I practiced tantra on my own.
I share with you a basic tantric principle 💥 that of polarity 💥
Or the push pull of life.
The magnetism that draws you to another person for instance.
Steps to increasing + practicing Polarity:
1 Decide if you want to be in the Go or Flow state
2 Transition fully into Go or Flow (most people are in Go - I give tips on getting into Flow)
3 Practice being in the state you choose. Partnered dance is a great way to practice.
The Go state is one where you are focused, have a sense of direction and movement and at the same time be present enough to feel into where the person in Flow is and respond.
Those in Flow states dance and move around the Go state person. There is power in the flow state as one cannot exist without the other. And people in Flow must listen into the Go state person so that they can receive the signals from them. The state is one of receptivity and relax.
Your sexy mind : reasonable, emotional and WILD
Learn to self-soothe – getting you back to good
Self-soothing is soooooo good. Because only you know exactly what you need to make you feel better.
And you are with yourself ALL THE TIME, so basically there’s always someone there to look out for you.
Learn 6 easy ways to self soothe and make life so smooth:
1. Gentle touch
2. Non-linear movement
3. Golden light + love
4. Positive words / affirmations
5. Community + synchronised movement
6. Hugs
Feel sensational in bed by breathing in a whole new way
Self-Pleasure Basics - How to really gain supreme confidence in dating (and in life)
You can only be confident in your sexiness – truly confident – if you know your body inside and out.
And self-pleasure is possibly THE best way to do that.
Imagine that you trusted your body completely, that you knew exactly what she wanted and needed at any time, and that you felt safe in your own sexiness. I'm talking about YOU being in charge here, no one else.
Would that make you feel confident in dating? Hell yes!
Would that make you feel confident in bed? That's another hell yes!! (Even got 2 exclams)
And that confidence radiates into your whole life.
Pleasure: the best thing to do for your health
Pleasure is the best medicine for good health
Sexual pleasure is a full-body experience of all of the five wonderful senses that we are born with.
The more you can drop into your body in sex whether solo or in company, the more pleasure you will experience.
I introduce you to a super sensual and oh so delicious tantric ritual that will get you right to the epicentre of pleasure: your body.
