Now-a-days, mindfulness is E*V*E*R*Y*W*H*E*R*E
It’s even creeping into the bedroom… 🛏under the covers
And we sure as hell need it there. 😯
We crave deep real soul-to-soul connection in intimacy in a world full of quick Tinder fixes and porn addictions that leave us unsatisfied.
In this video expert sex coach + sex educator, Kian de la Cour shares how Mindfulness in the bedroom is incredible for your sex life. 🧘♀
Learn how to get back the nourishment, aliveness, love + full-bodied delight that connected intimacy (both with ourselves + another) brings.
And how ‘mindful intimacy’ + being fully connected to your body in the bedroom feeds your soul + touches the heart of those you are with.
Kian speaks about how to start (2.08)
Self-practice (aka masturbation)
Decouple from habits
habitual ways of arousal learned from childhood or porn
from goal-orientation or sex with climax ending in orgasm
Change the focus to feeling internally vs how I look / am performing
Here’s how to get started:
Put aside dedicated time with a start + end time
Set an intention (eg to relax completely, to let go of expectations, to NOT orgasm)
Explore your body in new ways. Play. Be curious. Expand outwards from just genital focus.
Breathe – Practice long exhales - relax your nervous system + open up to more sensation