If you're anything like I was, you're sick and tired of the endless dating cycle by now.
You'd give anything to make the process of finding love (or as I see it, creating love), faster.
You may have already fallen in love once or twice before in your lifetime (and if you haven't yet...don't worry – you are not alone).
So you don't need me to tell you that falling in love is an incredible process of expansion.
You feel yourself grow almost physically larger than life. Your heart explodes outwards.
You see the world differently.
As we get to know another, we see the world – our world – and ourselves through their eyes.
So really falling in love is an expansion into YOU.
You discover more about who YOU are. And fall in love with yourself as much as with another person.
And this is an incredible experience.
Oooo .. wait.. I can hear you now…
“But Andrea, how is this insight going to help me now? I’m single!
I need to find my person first before I can benefit from this expansion business.”
Bullsh*t, I say.
Not only can you experience the expansive amazingness of falling in love NOW
But it’s going to help you bring the person that’s going to invite you to know yourself more quickly into your life.
Here are 3 simple ways that you can begin the process of falling in love NOW and attract in someone who’ll join the ride with you:
Fill your own gaps - are you looking for someone good with money because you suck with money? Let me tell you this, people good with money do their best to AVOID those who are not good with it. Looking for an artist type to help you realise your creative side? GET IN THE DRAWING STUDIO and see who you meet when you’re there. Filling the gaps feeds off of the misdirected belief that someone else should ‘complete’ us. Yes, there is a lot to learn from another in relationship, but expecting that other person to fill you up is draining. Learn to feed your own needs and desires in life so you are free to love the other person for who they are – not just what they bring to the relationship. That’s a ‘what can I get from this’ mentality and it doesn’t make for a healthy relationship.
Fall in love with your ‘faults’ - Do you look round you only to see people in the world who are non-committal? Or who don’t lack inspiration? Now turn the gaze upon yourself. Is there some part of you that’s afraid of commitment? Or that feels bored by life? THAT’S what wants loving. And some attention. Once you give these parts of you some TLC, then you’ll begin to notice, through inspired eyes, that there’s more out there (and in people) that you’d first seen.
Love who you are NOW. What parts of you or qualities in you light your own fire. Add some fuel to that flame and let yourself shine!!! This is a surefire way to attract more of what you already love into your life.
You’ve got this.
Turn up the volume on lovin’ yourself and filling you with what you need, and the world (of lovely available people), becomes your oyster.