Jade Egg Basics : What is this little stone all about. And why should you care?

The jade egg has changed my life. Literally. 

It put Pleasure with a capital ‘P’ back on my map after decades of increasing numbness in my body.

But I didn’t always love this little egg-shaped stone.

When I first heard of the jade egg I was like, “Nope, no way. You gotta be crazy. I’ve got to put what, where?”

I had a deep fear of putting anything inside of me, never mind something made of stone. 

The following information is based on what the jade egg did for me and countless other women - the jade egg’s been used in the US for over 40 years, and in Asia for thousands.

Yep, thousands.

There has to be something to it, right?

So what is it exactly? And how does it work?

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1. The jade egg is a tool that can be used to support a deep, intimate understanding of your body and your sexuality. 

The jade egg is a stone made of certified jade and shaped into an egg. Like kegel weights, it can be gently invited into the vaginal canal to strengthen and tone the muscles inside of your body.

It can also be used together with tools such as meditation, visualisation, and focusing on body sensation to melt away layers of tension and holding that keep you from experiencing the fullness of pleasure.

Both your body and your sexuality belong to you, right? They are both with you all the time. So why was it that I felt that I had no clue about either at the age of 40? 

If you had asked me to describe my sexuality years ago, I would have gone straight onto Google (I actually did this) to look up the term sexuality. What did that encompass? How would I describe mine?!? I had no clue...

Now I would describe myself and my sexuality as gentle, strong, sensual, sexy, beautiful, alive, powerful, erotic, mystical, innocent and the list goes on and on. 

I know how to turn myself on and how to tell my lover (aka boyfriend) what I like and what I want. 

Am I perfect at this? Nope. But I’m 400% better at it than I was.

I continue to use the egg as a tool to learn about my body, keep her in good health. 

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2. The jade egg can help you overcome whatever it is that is holding you back from being your fullest, most beautiful, most sexy self.

When I bought my first egg, it was about a year before I could even try to put the thing inside of me. I’d look at the little wonder with trepidation and worry and even fear. 

And the first times I tried to ease the egg into my vagina, I felt deep nausea and disgust come up. I just could not do it. 

So I learned to listen to my body. And my pussy. And work with her slowly. Until finally, gradually, over time she opened up to the little egg welcomed it in.

I came to realise that was surfacing was decades old beliefs and conditioning I had inherited from growing up in a religion that shamed masturbation and self-pleasure, a culture that labeled women who enjoyed sex too much as trashy, and a deep fear embedded in me around how sex would destroy my life (from disease, pregnancy, disrepute, the list goes on). 

It took some time to work through all of this. To trust my body. Trust my pleasure. And welcome it back in my body. 

The jade egg practices proved to be a practical way for me to do this. 

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3. The jade egg will help you feel deeply nourished and alive

When I incorporate the jade egg into my daily life, I feel more fresh, vitalised and renewed. I sleep better. I feel fuller and more content. 

When you work with the jade egg deep in your body it can act as a kind of internal masseur, releasing tension and tightness (stuck energy) from your tissues and muscles. 

This allows for a more free flow of vital energy throughout your body, making you feel more vibrant and alive, or deeply relaxed depending on who you are. 

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4. The jade egg helps increase sensitivity in your vagina

Remember how I was explaining before about all of those layers of conditioning that were causing me so many problems? 

Well, not only would I feel nausea with my jade egg practices, but I would also numb out during sex. Or feel burning sensations. 

What the heck? I thought sex was supposed to feel good all the time?!? That’s what Hollywood says anyway. I was sold a line? Why does no one talk about this?

Turns out if you, like me, carry emotional baggage of some sort, chances are your body has built up a barrier around feeling things. Love your body for doing this – it’s just trying to keep you safe. 

But now that part of you needs to learn that it’s ok to relax. 

As I learned to feel safe in my sexiness, I began to notice more feeling in my vagina. I started having cervical orgasms! And vaginal ones as well. 

Woohooo!!! It’s like a part of me that had gone into a long slumber was slowly coming alive again. 

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5. The jade egg gives you permission to try on as many flavours of sexiness as you can imagine - it’s infinitely fun

Guided jade egg practices gave me a safe container within which to explore flavours of sensuality that I’d not previously allowed myself. 

I discovered I could be wild and still be wholesome. 

That I could be both erotic and innocent. 

I could surrender completely or take charge. 

Sexiness could be sacred or primal.

It was my choice. My pleasure. My body. My self-discovery. 

And in it I found so many parts of myself that I had buried away. 

Why do I think you might like the jade egg?

Because I know you are dying to know all the sides of yourself too. You are curious. You live your life courageously. You are bold. You are brave. 

You are exceptional. 

And remember, I’ve been there. You’ll have my support the whole way through. 

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6. Jade Egg practices when done regularly heal your body. Here’s how: 

• Increase pelvic floor and vaginal wall strength

• Increase sensitivity in your vagina and your entire pelvic region

• Fortify a body / mind connection critical to enhancing pleasure and intimacy during sex with a partner or solo

• Feel empowered by your sexuality as you understand intimately how your body works

• Become more sensitive to energy and how it moves in your body

In my own personal experience in my own body it has also:

• Reduced and eliminated pain, burning and numbness in my vagina

• Steadied and normalized my menstrual cycle

• Reduced premenstrual symptoms of cramping and soreness

• Uplifted and balanced my emotions and my energy

• Gave me inner confidence by knowing and understanding my body’s ability to experience pleasure alone and with a partner

But don’t just take it from me. Here’s a YouTube vid where I interview a fellow jade egg coach on her own experience: How the jade egg helped one woman find love

Sound: use it to experience wild, full-bodied pleasure for men

Sex is like surfing. 

Learn how to ride the waves of your sexual energy and you’ll feel it’s magnificent force as a full bodied pleasure experience.

And who doesn’t want a full-bodied experience of pleasure? 

If you could control your ejaculatory reflex and spread the experience of arousal throughout your whole body, rather than having it just centered around the head of your penis, why wouldn’t you? 

In order to do this, you’ll need to be able to fully surrender to your turn-on, like a surfer surrenders to the power of the wave. 

In surrendering, the surfer relaxes into the rise and fall of the power of the ocean beneath him. 

At the same time, he remains open and connected to his body. He is completely present.

Same thing with sexual arousal. 

When you learn to relax into your pleasure and ride the wave versus clamping down on it, repressing it or controlling it you become super sensitive to pleasure. 

So much so that you can move and spread that energy throughout your body and experience expanded states of bliss.

Open, surrendered, and connected are the states you’ll need to be in to ride the waves of pleasure.

One of the most powerful tools for opening yourself up to these states is to use your voice. To ‘sound’.  

Sounding in sex is allowing your body to have a voice. 

It’s giving sound or voice to whatever part of you wants to express itself in that moment. 

It’s allowing whatever sounds that want to emerge from you to come out however they want to come out. And not judging them. 

Often times we are ashamed of making noise during sex, and we clamp down on the sounds that would naturally come out. 

This could come through years of adolescence where masturbation happened on the down low and as quickly as possible so no one would hear.

And so men are expected to emit an occasional grunt or groan, but not much else in sex. 

Women are also assigned a set of ‘proper’ sounds during sex. 

But as is so often the case, what we are sold as acceptable ‘normal’ sex sounds are scripted for Hollywood or porn and are limited. 

We humans are much more interesting than that. 

So let yourself go. 

You can get used to the sound of your own voice first in masturbation. Self-pleasure is a great place tp start. Let the sounds come forth wild an uninhibited, and you may just find that the powerful raw sexual desire, lusty and potent, rises within as well. 

You may feel a bit silly for it at first. Remember that no one is watching.

Full-bodied pleasure is yours to be had. 

Claim it.

The more you love and accept yourself for your truest, fullest expression, the more you open yourself up to being loved exactly this way by another. 

Re-wild yourself and experience your fullest potential for pleasure

NOTE: In my excitement, I mistakenly introduced Veda as a psychoanalyst. She's not! She's a psychoTHERAPIST. Very different. 

I met Veda few years back on our Coaching Certification program with Layla Martin. I remember the fire, the light, the aliveness in this woman – and her incredible capacity to take other women on a journey from shut down to wide awake, vibrant and sparkling. ✨

She’s been doing this for years, and as I only work with the best, I felt she’d be an excellent guest to help teach you how to come alive and, in her own words, ‘Rewild yourself’.

Rewilding is finding your way back to your unique, authentic sexuality that exists beneath the stuff that keeps us from experiencing it.

The conditioning (familial, societal), stress, and trauma (sexual or otherwise) can show up as numbness, disconnection from the body, lack of desire, or inability to experience pleasure or orgasm.

Veda shares with us her own story from feeling shutdown to sensationally sexy.

And she teaches you 3 practical, easy and simple ways for you to get there. 🦋

Links to things mentioned in the video:

Veda on Insta: wildjadewomen

Embody the Wild Workshop - tickets and information

The Jade Egg Demystified

Anatomy of Arousal Part IV: The A-spot & the Anus (yep, you're bum)

A is for…2 parts of your body specially equipped for pleasure

Both of these areas of your anatomy are lesser known than the ones we’ve spoken about thus far, the clitoris and G-spot.

Yet I'm telling you, they are both very very special. 

One of these areas lies very deep inside of your vagina and when a woman orgasms from here (and I speak from experience), it is profound, deeply emotional and takes you to another dimension entirely – there are almost no words for it. 🌺

The other area of your body I speak about holds the second highest concentration of nerve endings found in your body making it very sensitive to the touch – and potentially very pleasurable. The only problem is that our society and culture have made it entirely taboo to explore this place – for men and women both. 

This is such a shame, as by doing so we remove from ourselves access to pleasure that is unique from other flavours of it. 

I’ll challenge you to begin to explore this part of your beautiful body. Or to at least begin to consider it in a different light. 🧐 😊

Anatomy of Arousal Part III: The G-Spot

The G-spot and squirting go hand-in-hand. And like much of female sexuality have been shrouded in doubt and darkness for too long. 

So I created this video to not only clear up where the G-spot is, but also shed light on WHAT exactly it is. 

AND how when stimulated properly, it's equipped with a very special function: squirting! 💦

If you are asking yourself what squiring is, the you are not alone. According to Deborah Sundahl, the queen of the G-spot and female ejaculation (a.k.a. squirting), 60% of women suppress or deny themselves the pleasure of this beautiful bodily function because...they mistake it for having to pee during sex! 😱

By stopping yourself from squirting, you are often stopping yourself from experiencing your full pleasure, as you are in fact, blocking yourself from going over into orgasm.

I know that you are probably like me – you like to know you live your life to the fullest potential. And that should include your experience of pleasure in your body.

I’ve heard that ‘gushing orgasms’ are exceptional for many women (I'm currently working on teaching myself to squirt), and I’d like to know if the same is true for me. 

Watch this vid to learn the ins and outs of your G-spot and what squirting is. I also give some tips on who to go to to learn from the best about this beautiful part of our pleasure. 

Anatomy of Arousal Part 1: The Basics

I share with you the basics of our beautiful and perfect anatomy so that you can experience all of the pleasure that it is built for.

We women know so little about how our bodies work. And yet, we live with them day in and day out.

I’ll venture to say that we know so little about what brings us pleasure and what makes us feel good because we receive so little guidance on it and a lot of not so helpful gunk from the world around us in the form of messaging (eg Sex is sinful and only sluts like it) and bogus science (Does the G-spot even exist)?

And yet we are equipped from birth (every woman is, there are no exceptions) to experience states of orgasm that literally take to places of immense beauty and exquisiteness.

I share with you in this video, the basics of our beautiful and perfect anatomy so that you know your body intimately.

So that you are empowered to access pleasure by understanding how it works on a physical level in your body so that you can experience greater states of orgasm and pleasure.

Because pleasure is your birthright. Because it’s incredible. And because you deserve it.

The jade egg demystified - an ancient sex tool goes mainstream

It took me months and months before I had the courage to use the jade egg for the first time. You see, I was never really that comfortable with putting tampons in, so how the hell was I going to get this little egg-shaped stone into my body?

No one in my family was comfortable with the word ‘sex’, never mind having a whole discussion about it. So putting ANYTHING in our bodies, even a tampon, always felt shameful and wrong.

Sound familiar?

I was determined however, to get over this. It was blocking me from really experiencing my fullest potential in sex and love and I knew it. My phobia of self-pleasure and touching myself sexually had to go if I wanted maximum confidence in myself. And I knew that the jade egg was a way to get there. 

The first step, I learned, in getting me to feel more comfortable about all of this was learning exactly what the jade egg was, where it came from, where it would land inside of my body and what precisely it would do for me once it was there.

In this video, I talk about the benefits of a jade egg practice. And how it’s been used for thousands of years to help women (and how it can now help you) to:

• amplify your pleasure in sex

• increase your orgasmic potential

• and bring you back to wholeness

• feel more alive

• awaken your sexiness

And I cover some of the basics like:

What is a jade egg? 

It’s and egg-shaped stone made of jade. It’s that simple.

What do you do with it? 

Think of this like yoga for your vagina. You use it internally and perform a series of practices that help to not only strengthen your muscles (which in and of itself increases your orgasmic potential). 

How does it work exactly? 

A regular jade egg practice includes a series of physical exercises. For example squeezing + releasing around the egg when it sits at various points in your vagina from close to the pelvic floor to up near the cervix. 

It also includes supportive mind / body practices to help you to release conditioning and build a healthy relationship to your sexuality and your body. 

What are the results of a regular jade egg practice?

• It builds a strong mind / body connection so critical in how much pleasure you experience in sex

• Supports you in letting go of any limiting thoughts or beliefs about yourself and your body that keep you from experiencing maximum pleasure

• Brings you back to a healthy vibrant state of wholeness physically and mentally

• Gives you more energy and vibrancy in all parts of your life

If you’d like to be informed about my upcoming Jade Egg course, send me an email and I’ll add you to the list: andrea@lushcoaching.com

Love. Andrea