December is a time of year for retrospection…and introspection.
As you look back on the year – and granted, it’s been a strange one – you can take stock of what you’ve learned.
And ask what wants to be left behind. What wants to be carried forward.
And what wants to happen in the new year so that you can create the love you want.
Journaling is a great way to do this.
And I also recommend long walks in nature as you contemplate the following.
With the wisdom mined, you’ll then take informed, inspired action.
Step 1: Get clear on what you want in a relationship
This year in Dating
What worked with meeting new people
What didn’t
Who did you connect with easily. Why?
What made a date feel good?
What made a date flop?
Action:
Dating over time can be tough. And we can loose a sense for how much it actually teaches us.
Write down 3 things that dating helped you understand about what you want in a relationship.
Read more on healthy relationships here.
Step 2: Prep your heart for big love
This year in Love
What wants letting go from this year
Unreturned messages
Bad dates
Bad kisses
Dashed hopes
Heartbreak big and small
Patterns that keep repeating
Action: Write down 3 things you’re letting go of this year. Burn the paper.
Fill yourself up with good stuff with this Heal Heartbreak meditation.
Step 3: Know you can have it (even if you never have)
This year in Sex + Pleasure
Are you connected to your body?
Did you self-pleasure enough?
Did it feel sacred….or routine?
Did you only say yes when it was a HELL YES and your body was on board?
What allows you to drop more into pleasure?
What keeps you from it?
Does it feel nourishing?
Action:
Schedule sex in. Yep, even if it’s with yourself. Get that diary out and find 3 days that work for you.
Your pleasure is yours to own. It’s your birthright and we’re all naturally wired for pleasure.
You are the creator of your own pleasure.
You are the creator of your life.
And you can create the deep, connected, long-term healthy partnership that you want to.
It starts with you.