We think we're going to lose someone when we say no, that's not ok.
Instead, those worth keeping grow more curious about us. And respect our edges.
We become more powerful in ourselves as we trust ourselves more.
And that powerful sense of knowing is VERY sexy for someone who knows his or her own power as well.
This other person knows that they come to someone who can hold themselves and protect themselves.
And so they are free to love you. Without having to save you. And if they too know their boundaries, have a strong sense of self-respect + love for themselves, they won't expect you to save them either.
HOW TO CREATE + MAINTAIN YOUR (new + sexy) BOUNDARIES
1. Know your desires + values in Relationship – get crystal clear – make a list
Include emotional, physical, mental + spiritual aspects
This is your line in the sand
2. Learn how to say NO - firmly + from your heart
When you are grounded and speak your NO clearly, then your YES becomes clearer as well. (Thank you @Sue Sutherland)
3. Be ok with whatever happens
Know that the trust + respect you demonstrate for yourself is what makes you YOU.
Love yourself knowing that being there for yourself is a great act of self-love.
And anyone who doesn't respect your boundaries, who doesn't first seek to respect you and then understand you, is probably someone you don't want around.
What better filter than this for discerning who's right / wrong for you!!
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