Dating is not a numbers game - How to turn the odds in your favour

Dating is not a numbers game. ➕➖➗

I know. 

I went on hundreds of dates and swiped thousands of profiles for 8 straight years. 

Countless hours were spent crafting my online profile. 

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It only mattered so much.

I finally felt like I was taking control over finding a relationship when I really owned it. 

And the IT here was me.

I owned how I showed up in the world. 

I owned the incredible things about me.

I owned my own amazingness. 

AND

I reflected it accurately and openly – online + off

In this video I share practical (and not so practical) tips on 

-Knowing it + Owning it

-Reflecting that in your online profile 

-Reflecting it in the real world

-Allowing in that which you put out (love...yum)

Solo Tantra 101 - Polarity: Get the sparks flying

My first 3 years of learning tantra were when I was single.

I practiced tantra on my own.

I share with you a basic tantric principle 💥 that of polarity 💥 

Or the push pull of life.

The magnetism that draws you to another person for instance.

Steps to increasing + practicing Polarity:

1. Decide if you want to be in the Go or Flow state

2. Transition fully into Go or Flow (most people are in Go - I give tips on getting into Flow)

3. Practice being in the state you choose. Partnered dance is a great way to practice.

The Go state is one where you are focused, have a sense of direction and movement and at the same time be present enough to feel into where the person in Flow is and respond.

Those in Flow states dance and move around the Go state person. There is power in the flow state as one cannot exist without the other. And people in Flow must listen into the Go state person so that they can receive the signals from them. The state is one of receptivity and relax.

Tantra is a vast philosophy and as rich as the ancient tradition from which it stems.

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Practicing on your own will help you to:

- to draw in love

- feel more sexy and alive

- awaken your body to pleasure

- become a master lover so you can share this with another

You could spend a lifetime studying it and only ever scratch the surface.

I recommend starting now.

Defy rejection + date with confidence

Rejection is a big one.

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I wrote a post on it here and in a few other groups and heard lots from you about it so I decided to speak on how to not only manage rejection, but also how to learn from it.

Whether you’ve been dating for a while or if you’re jumping in the sea after some time on dry land, you’re likely to have come across it in one form or another.

And probably are doing your best to avoid it. Who wouldn’t? It hurts! 🤕

Thing is, that by trying to avoid it I’ll bet that you’re talking your way out of what might be opportunities to know some pretty fantastic people.

Learn how to take the sting out of rejection so that it no longer becomes a ‘thing’.

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Dating will feel easier.

And you’ll feel more free to meet people that you’d like to know better.

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The gift of rejection:

The more we can love + accept the parts of us we ‘reject’ within ourselves, the stronger and more confident that we’ll become. Here’s how it works.

Deciphering rejection:

1. Feel the feels fully in your body. Allow the tough emotions to flow through you. Create space by breathing into the tightest places, moving + sounding out the sensations + emotions.

2. Ask yourself, what part of me can I love more? You can find this answer by recalling the negative thoughts that went through your head when you were rejected. Something like…’he probably thought I was too…’ or ‘she didn’t think I was (fill in the blank) enough.” That part of you that you guess might be too much or too little is exactly the part of you that needs acceptance + to be appreciated and loved by you.

3. Let go of the story. Let go of whatever you think it might all mean...about the other person...about you.

4. And love yourself EVEN MORE.

Expand into new ways of being – how to be a brighter you

Lousie’s work bridges Western philosophy and psychology and Eastern esoteric traditions and shamanism.
She knows the power of each and taps into both to help you understand what you learn.  

She does this so that you are able to take the gifts of the experience and apply them to your NOW so you can live the life you want.

You will learn practical ways to understand and fold the experiences you have into your life to support your own thriving.

- what it looks like when you experience a growth spurt (aka spiritual awakening)

- how to listen for what wants to 'emerge' when this happens

- and be with the feelings, thoughts and emotions that come with it

So that you can come into being a newer, brighter version of yourself instead of running away and pushing down what wants to come out.

We also speak about:

- expanded states of consciousness - from meditation to plan medicines

- and how to interpret the language and learnings that we experience in these states

So that new meaning can be brought into our lives.

Your sexy mind : reasonable, emotional and WILD

When we have sex, either with ourselves or with others, some of the most pleasurable experiences happen when all parts of us are ok with it.
By all parts of us, I mean all parts of our brain – and all parts of our being.

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In neuroscience we understand ‘all parts of our brain’ as the triune brain or 3 part brain (neocortex, limbic, reptilian 🦖 -- really?!!).

Similarly in ancient taoist tradition, our 3 energy centres (mind, heart + sex centres) must be ‘in alignment’ or in agreeance for us to experience the most powerful sex ever.

🧠❤🔥

Cutting-edge science meets ancient wisdom.

How sexy is that?

The Secret Lives of Men

I’ve begun to speak with, walk with and talk with more and more men through my work.
I’m here not to speak on their behalf – I’d not be able to do that accurately.
I’m here to communicate what I have felt and heard through these conversations and heart-to-hearts with some magnificent men. 👱‍♂🧔🏿👨🏻

Because the hearts of men are truly magnificent. ❤⚡💪🏼

And it’s their deepest desire to share their hearts with you. And love you from that depths of that most sacred of places.

And in order to do that and, for both them and for you thrive from this incredible gift of giving, you’re gonna need to be ready.

You’re going to have to let go of the expectation that a man is and always should be superhuman. Sometimes he is godlike and heroic beyond belief. 💪🏼
And other times he’s gloriously human. He experiences the full range of human emotion from rage to love to fear to courage to wisdom to longing to power to loneliness. 😐

And the bravest of men will show you all of this. 🎁🎁🎁

Because in this openness he’s taking the biggest risk of all – dismounting from the white horse to meet you at a heart level. 👸🏾🤴🏼

And when he dismounts from that horse, he all of a sudden becomes someone who can get hurt and falter. Who feels pain and doesn’t know quite what to do with it.
I know you. You are an incredible woman. You are learning to own your stuff. To do the work.
And in order to do that successfully it’s been necessary to be seen not as always perfect or right or having her shit together, but also in those moments where the cracks show. 😔

And so knowing what it takes to be powerful and fully loved and accepted exactly as you are, are you ready to do this for a man?

Because if what you long for is to be seen and loved for exactly who you are in all of you, I can confirm that men want precisely the same thing.

Learn to self-soothe – getting you back to good

One of the most difficult things about being single over the long run, is knowing that you’ve got to be self-reliant – for everything. 💪🏼

Sure you’ve probably got friends and family around for support. And I’m sure they are great – or as good as they can be. 👩‍👧‍👧 👨‍👩‍👧 👨‍👨‍👦

But sometimes in your darkest hours they can’t always be there. Maybe it’s too late at night to ring them or you feel that they are sweet, but they just don’t really understand you and what you’re feeling.

The truth of the matter is that even when you are in a relationship, that other person can’t be with you all the time to tell you it’s gonna be ok and that things will work out. In fact, sometimes the other person might have triggered in you anger, fear or sadness and you need some immediate TLC. 😮

Self-soothing is soooooo good. Because only you know exactly what you need to make you feel better.

And you are with yourself ALL THE TIME, so basically there’s always someone there to look out for you. 👭

So how do you find within yourself the ability to make yourself feel better? Especially when you feel like doo doo? 💩

Learn 6 (or more) ways to bring yourself back to good whether it’s recovering from a bad date or no date at all or when you just don’t feel so good. I’ll talk about:

1. Gentle touch

2. Non-linear movement

3. Golden light + love

4. Positive words / affirmations

5. Community + synchronised movement

6. Hugs

How to seduce like the French

I want to seduce like the French 🇫🇷 ❤

I want to become a masterful seductress. Powerful. Sensual. 

I want to…

“Wait!! Andrea are you telling me that you ...YOU ... want to seduce people? But I thought you were a woman of integrity?!!?’ 🤨🤔

I can hear you interrupt me, and protest my proclamation. 

“But seduction is a bad thing!! The kind of thing that draw us … lures us unwillingly into something dangerous. And then we’re caught and burned, like a moth to flame,” you say.

Well, thank the gods and goddesses for the French is my reply. 

Because to the French seduction is about expressing your inner essence as a woman. Not to manipulate or deceive, but to LIGHT THE WORLD ON FIRE…and draw in love so you can live the life of your dreams. 🔥

It's linked to a woman’s sensuality (also not a bad thing according to the French) and to her joy of life and living, her 'joie de vivre' as they say. 

In our culture we don’t often feel free to express ourselves fully as sensual beings. Women who are ‘too’ sensual, who express ardent sexual desire, who love sex are often shamed and labeled loose or easy or amoral.

And we view seduction too, in a negative light. The dictionary spells out seduction as:

taking away someone's innocence

debauching, corruption

dishonouring, ruin

😧😯😱

Well, I’d not want to seduce or be seductive either if it meant I was coming from a place of need or greed and was ‘out to get’ something from someone. 

So I want to seduce like the French. 

I want to express my own inner confidence, to come more and more into my power as a woman. 

✨💃🏻✨

And so I’ve decided to partner with a very seductive French woman (who also happens to be a hugely talented luxury jewellery designer+maker), Victoria von Stein to help bring out of us all that it is to be a woman: radiance, elegance, flow, joy, intelligence, charm, playfulness, lightheartedness, beauty, intensity, passion, love...and so much more.

Victoria von Stein speaks about how the French view seduction. 

How it's not forced or fake. 

How a seductive woman, 'une femme seduisante', is a very positive thing.  

Because you see, the beauty of seduction as we know it is that it brings the world alive. 

It’s fun and playful. It’s joyful. 

And the one seduced feels desired, loved and alive….as he enters into your beautiful world.

How to burn thru resistance + get the love you want

In this video you’ll learn 5 ways to burn through resistance in 2019 with fiery courageous love. 🔥

We have an intense desire for something – strong love, a lasting relationship, more connection + pleasure in sex.

It may be the thing that we want most in the world.

We may even have done some hard work on targeting what it is that is holding us back.

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And (if you have a good coach - hehe!!) you’ve even outlined some simple things you can do to get you where you want to go.

But then all of a sudden you feel too tired to do them. You start to question whether it’s going to work. You procrastinate or feel bored with it all or annoyed that you’ve go to do this when for everyone else it came so easily.

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And so you RESIST.

Our minds are weird – how all of a sudden do we feel annoyed + bored with getting what we really want so badly?!!

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Because change is a funny thing. It can feel scary and weird and in general our bodies and minds don’t like it.

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Even if change means that we’re going to get something that we’ve wanted maybe even our entire lives.

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And so I’m dedicating the first part of my 2019 on burning through my OWN resistance.

Because without doing so, nothing else on my list for 2019 will happen!

And whilst I may have started my process off with jumping off a cliff, working through resistance can be much less dramatic and just as effective.

Unless of course you too would like to go for drama. ; )

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Feel sensational in bed by breathing in a whole new way

Let me be honest with you, when I first started to do a thing called “Breathwork” I HATED IT. 
I mean really, truly, fiercely hated it.

And yet it proved to be one of the keys to me opening up my body to pleasure after years of it slowly shutting down to sensation. 

On some level over the years I realised what was happening to my body. I’d stay the course, plowing through long hours of work and focus on a career that I loved. 

But it was too much computer time. Too little movement. Too much focus and not enough play. Not enough time outdoors. 🤕
Numbness took over. 

Years of it.

But with Breathwork as one of my basic yet super potent tools, I slowly broke through. 🤯

It didn’t happen overnight. 

And I still have a lot of resistance to doing Breathwork sometimes. Like going to the gym, you know it’s super good for you and you’ll feel better afterwards...it’s just so hard to GET there sometimes.  

But I keep at it. Because time and again I find it works.
It brings me back into my body. And allows me to feel whatever it is I need to feel so that I can get back to good again. 😌

And feel sexy and alive. And whole. 🌬

I talk about the breath. How it’s opened me up. How I still use it all the time in lovemaking and in life. 

I believe it’s the new yoga of our time. You might have already heard about it. And if you haven’t then come hear how it can help you too. 

How to have emotionally safe sex

So you've heard of ‘safe sex’. Condoms are it, right? Maybe you’ve even got into the habit of asking the consensual other if you could both share test results before having unprotected sex. 👏

And this is great. It all keeps you biologically safe.

But what about the protection that your mind, heart and soul need when you want to have sex with another?

Can you count on one hand, two ...or is it more… the number of times you’ve:

• Kissed someone when you weren’t ready

• Hugged someone when you didn’t want to

• Or slept with someone when you weren’t that into them, perhaps in the hopes that it would make you feel more alive in some way or at least you’d feel like a normal functioning human

Can you remember how you felt afterwards? 😔 Any one of the following come to mind: 

• Disappointment – it wasn’t what you’d hoped

• Disconnection from your body – if you just don’t let the yuckiness sink in and stay with you you can somehow disown the experience

• Feeling scared or extra vulnerable after sex

• Being left with the feeling that sex just isn’t that good and you don’t know why you even tried to do it in the first place

• A feeling of rejection or disgust with yourself, the other person or sex in general

You’ve probably just had ‘emotionally unsafe sex.’ 😯

Never heard of it? That’s ‘cause we just don’t talk about it. 

But if you are looking to fall in love, it’s one of the worst things you can do as you’ll most likely experience a general closing down of your heart to love. 😶

Not to mention the effects it has on your body as it relates to lovemaking, even when you are with someone you want to be with. 

And so, in the interest of getting you fully ready to let love in, I’ve invited Emma Spiegler, expert in the subject and fellow Sex, Love and Relationships Coach to teach us: 

🍒 How to recognise what not feeling emotionally safe feels like in the body
🍒 How to make more informed decisions to know how to choose emotional safety
🍒 How to start to practice saying yes and no (even if it’s just a kiss)

So that when it comes down to falling in love you’ll feel strong and ready to dive in with an open heart that is, at the same time, deeply protected. ❤

How to find calm when the sea of love is rough and tumbles

We all get to a point in our lives when things feel too heavy to bear. When our breath draws short and our minds feel unable to navigate the twists and turns of all that is happening within and outside of us. 😔

It might happen in the early stages of dating or in a bit later in love or very far down the line. 

The fact of the matter is that connection with another, true connection where you show your heart even when it’s risky...especially when it’s risky...can turn things upside down in a minute. Or seconds. 

And you find yourself unable to breathe. Forget about thinking as your mind races or slows to numbness. 🤯 And it all feels unbearably weighty. 

Like you can’t move. 

The chances of feeling overwhelmed by emotion when travelling towards deep love are pretty high. 🏋‍

I teach a quick simple practice taken from mindfulness that allows all of the above to happen, but also creates some space and within that space some peace even as you hold, feel, and experience intense emotion. ❤

It’s helped me catch my breath again and come back to balance, even if only for a moment, when the going gets tough. 

And this has made all the difference. 

It doesn’t necessarily fix things, but it does bring some sense of calm in the midst of it all. And within this a sense of deep love. 

And you learn to hold yourself through, however imperfectly, the eye of the storm. 🌪

With love, calm and some stormy clouds 🌬

Vulnerability - a key ingredient to love

I cried in the arms of my boyfriend last weekend.

For a while I tried really hard not to. And didn’t even realise it.

But he felt it anyway. In my kiss and in our touch. 

He asked what was wrong. 

And as always, with quite a bit of hesitation, I told him I wanted to see him more. We both lead really busy lives and love what we do. 

‘Well that doesn’t sound that bad,’ you might be thinking to yourself. 

Well actually, it kind of is. Because I know that Naz fell in love with a strong, independent woman. Someone who could hold herself up and be on her own. 🏄‍

He’s the same. It’s one of the reasons why I fell in love with him. 🏋‍

But this fierce independent spirit of mine is also points to a source of my deepest vulnerability.

I’m not supposed to ‘need’ more time with him. I’m not supposed to need anything from anyone, really. One of my biggest fears is appearing (and feeling) needy or clingy or dependent. 

It would make me look weak and possibly less desirable in his eyes. 🐭

And then he’d no longer want me. 

And I’d lose love. 

So that’s a pretty big deal. 

In this video I talk about how falling in love, whether you are dating or in a relationship, requires quite a large degree of vulnerability. Not the clingy, needy kind where you expect the other person to pick you up, but the brave open-heartedness kind. 

The kind of vulnerability that means opening your heart to yourself. To the parts of you that feel like they might cause you to be rejected or unloved. So that by acknowledging them, meeting them, softening around and allowing them to be you can finally loving yourself for them.

When I took the risk with Naz and showed him a part of me I’d been trying to hide and deny, my defences were down. 

And down also came that thin but very present wall between us. 

And we both opened once more back into the love that is always there.

Self-Pleasure Basics - How to really gain supreme confidence in dating (and in life)

You can only be confident in your sexiness – truly confident – if you know your body inside and out.

And self-pleasure is possibly THE best way to do that.

Imagine that you trusted your body completely, that you knew exactly what she wanted and needed at any time, and that you felt safe in your own sexiness. I'm talking about YOU being in charge here, no one else. 

Would that make you feel confident in dating? Hell yes! 

Would that make you feel confident in bed? That's another hell yes!! (Even got 2 exclams)

And that confidence radiates into your whole life.

Love junkie or love cynic? This could be stopping you from being in (true) love.

There are some that are addicted to the fantasy of love. These are the Romantics. They believe wholeheartedly in an idealised relationship. A starry-eyed kind of love that looks and feels like it does in the movies. 🤩

You just need to find ‘the one’.

And with this perfect other, everything is easy and breezy and good and makes us feel whole.

….Wait, what?!....

I was chatting with Shelby Leigh, and listening in quiet disbelief as she described her most recent work in a decade-long career as a somatic psychotherapist, meditation teacher and certified coach.

Was Shelby seriously telling me that there are people out there that still believe the myth of Romanticism? 🙀

Maybe you, dear reader, are one of these tender hearted optimistic people.

If so, I’d love to hear from you.  

You see, I’m more used to the words of the ‘love cynics’. Those who have come to resign themselves to the fact that there is most likely not a ‘one.’ They believe more in the chance (maybe it’s even their deepest fear) that there is actually NO one out there for them. 😶

In fact, if you are like I was, single for what feels like forEVER, you’d definitely be more convinced that NO one is the only ‘one’ you might ever know.

And perhaps have even begun to resign yourself to that fact.

Anyway, all of your friends in relationships just complain about them anyway. So you wonder whether or not it’s even worth it to stay subscribed to this newsletter.

Well, I’ve invited Shelby to tell us about her experience working with the Romantics, or ‘love junkies’ as she calls them. Because what she’s learned about helping them find love applies to us cynics as well. 🧐⚡

As is mentioned in this wonderful article, ‘How Romanticism Ruined Love’, from the School of Life,

“We need to piece together a post-Romantic theory of couples, because in order to make a relationship last we almost have to be disloyal to the Romantic emotions that get us into it in the first place.

The idea of being ‘post-Romantic’ shouldn’t imply cynicism; that one has abandoned the hope of relationships ever working out well. The post-Romantic attitude is just as ambitious about good relationships, but it has a very different sense of how to honour the hopes.”

In this video Shelby and I discuss how you can begin to form a beautiful relationship full of love that lasts over time whilst knowing that nothing is ever perfect.

And perhaps it’s the imperfection itself that is what is exactly right for us. 😌

You’ll learn some simple practices that Shelby uses with her clients to great effect.

So much so that even as ‘love junkies’ fall once again into love, they stumble along with the best of us having learned how to navigate the sometimes turbulent, sometimes blissful waters of real love. 🐳

Learn 3 simple practices - master the Art of Receiving and Fall into Love

The other night I went out swing dancing with some friends. I love the place we go to as there’s a live swing band playing some of my favourite music from another time and place.

The crowd is a real mix of people. Hipsters twirl together with old timers dressed in finery from another era – it can really take you to another place.

I accepted a dance from one of my favourite gentlemen in the place. He must be at least 80 years old or so and he is a fantastic lead.

And I am a fantastic follower.

But this didn’t happen overnight.
You see, it took me quite some time to learn the delicate balance of give / take in the dance. And what my part as a follower would be in it.  

My part is to know my steps. But even more important than this is to listen carefully to the journey that the lead is creating. He has in his mind from one moment to the next what shapes we’ll create and what movements we’ll swing into. And if I didn’t listen carefully, our togetherness breaks.

It took me a long time to learn to follow because most of my life (which was me, single and dancing alone) I was the lead.

And in many ways, I liked it this way. I decided what to do when and how. At work. At play.

But it was also exhausting.

I wondered what life might look like, and how the dance would be if there was someone else there with me. 😌

What if they were leading (frightening thought) even if just for a few moments. What would that look like?

What if they messed up?

What if I messed up?

What if I couldn’t follow?

What if I didn’t like where they were going? Or how they were getting there?

And what would I be as a (lowly) follower? 🤨

I was reminded when dancing with my wonderful octogenarian lead, what it was like to be on the receiving end of a man who knows where he’s going and what he’s doing.

I could relax into the moment. I closed my eyes, let by body listen to the sensitive yet clear signalling of his hands in mine, and dropped completely into the music and the moment. Bliss! ✨

Was I perfect? No! I messed up loads of times. And threw my head back in laughter (even to be able to do this – laugh at the mess-ups especially when there was another person involved – took lots of years of practice).

What about him? Patiently and with an amused smile, my lead would get us back on track with that clear, constant signalling of a slight shift of his hand in mine. He had it covered. 🎩

If you give a man the chance, they will add pleasure to your life. And be so happy to do so. Because when they care about you, even just a little, your pleasure is magic to them.

But learning to receive gifts from gentlemen (and even sometimes their lead) takes training. 🧘‍

In fact, for women, learning to receive ANYTHING from just about anyone, is not easy. Tonight I’ll talk about why this is.

WHAT YOU’LL LEARN

In this video I teach you 3 simple ways to begin to receive more easily in life. Especially from men.

So that when a man steps up to give to you, whether that be a simple invitation to dance, or even just to hold open the door, you are ready to receive this gift of pleasure into your life. And know the power in it. For both of you.

And to help you with the first step, download this { FREE } Playbook ‘How to Find Good Guys’ here.

Resilience: a key quality for thriving whilst dating

I’ve invited ‘healthy hedonist’ and Integrated Sex, Love and Relationships coach, yoga teacher, writer, speaker and women’s health expert Ruth Sowter to speak about…

Resilience.

Wait, what? Seems like a bit of a strange topic for a hedonist who’s to teach us about getting all googly-eyed over someone, wouldn’t you say?

The truth of the matter is that dating can feel like a tough game. And the beginning months of a new relationship like a trip down a rocky road with blind corners at every stop.

Ruth speaks about how Resilience is an essential skill to hone so that you can experience dating in a more healthy way.

The skills you learn in being resilient will translate to relationship as you transition over from dating to mating. 🥂

Staying with all of the myriad emotions you feel (from interest and curiosity to excitement and nervousness to insecurity and questioning to name a few) as you meet new people and get to know them can be very challenging and quite confusing.

Ruth teaches 3 easy ways to begin to develop Resilience so that you can feel more open and ready for love...and more steady AND sexy on a date. 

1. Create a pre-date ritual – For more on pre-date rituals, visit 3 pre-date rituals that will make you rock it on a date

2. Have a full life – Outside of dating

3. Practice boundaries – How to say 'yes' or 'no' to a next date

Watch the video for the details and wisdom. 

Pleasure: the best thing to do for your health

“Consider a discipline of pleasure to be an investment in your health. A joyful heart and a body that experiences pleasure and nurturing are your most reliable health insurance.”

Dr. Christiane Northrup, Goddesses Never Age, The Secret Prescription for Radiance, Vitality and Wellbeing

I love this book by physician Dr. Christiane Northrup. You might have read her other best-seller and classic, “Women’s Bodies, Women’s Wisdom”. Somehow I skipped that one and came right to “Goddesses Never Age”. ✨

And I’m glad I did. (Though I do plan on reading “Women’s Bodies, Women’s Wisdom” too.)

Dr. Northrup writes about the scientific evidence that supports what I’ve learned through experience to be true: that healing happens through experiencing pleasure in your body on a regular basis.

This is what I find most interesting about this phrase in the quote above, 'Discipline of pleasure'. We're very good about being disciplined at work, with family responsibilities, paying the bills. 

I'm asking you to begin to bring some of the spirit of discipline, making something a priority and dedicating yourself to it, to the pleasure you experience in your life. It will change your body, your mind and your soul. 

And whilst pleasure doesn’t necessarily have to be sexual for you to feel the benefits, it’s definitely one of the most beautiful ways to experience blissful states of being – and as a result, fantastic health.

What you'll learn

In this video, I introduce you to a super sensual and oh so delicious tantric ritual that will get you right to the epicentre of pleasure: your body.

Sexual pleasure is an experience of all of the senses which are accessed through our body. The more you can drop into your body in sex whether solo or in company, the more pleasure you will experience.

And the more pleasure you experience, the healthier you will be.

Love Stories: How the jade egg helped one woman find love

"All relationships are a mirror of the one we have with ourselves, and by upgrading our inner landscape we upgrade the outer landscape."

This wisdom comes from Marilu Snyders, a Self-Love & Jade Egg Coach and founder of Fire Maya based in Cape Town, South Africa.

Marilu lives this truth and it’s reflected in her own journey from perpetual singledom to beautiful love with the support of some good coaching and a healthy and a simple, easy jade egg practice. 🌈

It wasn’t such an easy start though. Marilu’s jade egg lay unexplored on her bedside table for about 3 months (I think my first egg collected dust for a similar amount of time). 

It seems that many women who actually own a jade never actually use it. Some (like me) are too afraid to get the thing inside of them. 

Others of us are so accustomed are some of us to vibrating toys that sing and dance, this little stone seems to go unnoticed when it finally makes its way inside of our bodies.

We wait...and...feel nothing. NOTHING! 🤨

Marliu talks us through how she was able to work past the disappointment of her initial experience with the egg to go on to develop a practice that transformed her life in so many incredible ways. 

She teaches you her secret formula for setting up your own personal jade egg practice so that you too can bring some radical change to your life. 🦋

Re-wild yourself and experience your fullest potential for pleasure

NOTE: In my excitement, I mistakenly introduced Veda as a psychoanalyst. She's not! She's a psychoTHERAPIST. Very different. 

I met Veda few years back on our Coaching Certification program with Layla Martin. I remember the fire, the light, the aliveness in this woman – and her incredible capacity to take other women on a journey from shut down to wide awake, vibrant and sparkling. ✨

She’s been doing this for years, and as I only work with the best, I felt she’d be an excellent guest to help teach you how to come alive and, in her own words, ‘Rewild yourself’.

Rewilding is finding your way back to your unique, authentic sexuality that exists beneath the stuff that keeps us from experiencing it.

The conditioning (familial, societal), stress, and trauma (sexual or otherwise) can show up as numbness, disconnection from the body, lack of desire, or inability to experience pleasure or orgasm.

Veda shares with us her own story from feeling shutdown to sensationally sexy.

And she teaches you 3 practical, easy and simple ways for you to get there. 🦋

Links to things mentioned in the video:

Veda on Insta: wildjadewomen

Embody the Wild Workshop - tickets and information

The Jade Egg Demystified