For Women, For Men, For Couples
Andrea Balboni
How to talk about sex in a new relationship

If you want to have good sex – to give pleasure and receive it – you need to communicate both your own wants, needs, and desires to your partner, and to ask them what works for them as well.
The myth that someone should just be able to ‘feel into you’ and if they can hit all your spots, they must be ‘the right one’ needs to die.

How to talk about sex in a new relationship

For Men

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How to have better sex: connection + consent with Nichi Hodgson

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How to have better sex: connection + consent with Nichi Hodgson

How to have better sex: connection + consent with Nichi Hodgson

I want you to jump from two feet into the bedroom, when you feel finally ready to be intimate with a certain someone you might have just started dating.

And not only that, I want you to have the best sex possible when you do.

And so, I wanted to break out this bit of a conversation from a video I had posted a few weeks back with Nichi Hodgson, journalist on all things sexy for the likes of the Guardian and Sky News that will help you to do so.You see, consent is key to connection. And connection is the key to great sex. Especially if you are new to dating someone. 

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How to know if an open relationship is right for you

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How to know if an open relationship is right for you

From Classic Monogamy to Monogamish – the new black to Pioneering with Polyamory

There are so many choices out there now-a-days...How do you know what's right for you?

Expert Ria Bloom explains:

How to know what relationship style is right for you

How to own it

And why it's important to voice it

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Are you asking for too much from someone?

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Are you asking for too much from someone?

WHEN ARE YOU ASKING FOR TOO MUCH FROM SOMEONE IN ❤

**Core values are fundamental

Don't let them slide! Rather, soften around them.

To determine what your core values in relationship are ask yourself:

- What moments in my life have fulfilled me + felt meaningful?

- When do I feel most like myself

- In the times I've felt down, what has been missing?

My core values are:

Honesty

Open communication

Accountability + Responsibility

Money mindset compatibility

Sense of adventure / curiosity

**Combat perfectionism

Ask yourself:

What do I wish others would see in me?

What do I wish I had a gentle teacher for?

Looking inward, we notice that we are not perfect either.

And that some things take time to uncover.

And that this may be the buried treasure you've yet to discover in the other.

**I'm curious, what's your nu 1 core value? Comment below.👇🏽

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Boundaries - the unexpected love magnet

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Boundaries - the unexpected love magnet

UNEXPECTED LOVE MAGNET: BOUNDARIES

We think we're going to lose someone when we say no, that's not ok.

Instead, those worth keeping grow more curious about us. And respect our edges.

We become more powerful in ourselves as we trust ourselves more.

And that powerful sense of knowing is VERY sexy for someone who knows his or her own power as well.

This other person knows that they come to someone who can hold themselves and protect themselves.

And so they are free to love you. Without having to save you. And if they too know their boundaries, have a strong sense of self-respect + love for themselves, they won't expect you to save them either.

HOW TO CREATE + MAINTAIN YOUR (new + sexy) BOUNDARIES

1. Know your desires + values in Relationship – get crystal clear – make a list

Include emotional, physical, mental + spiritual aspects

This is your line in the sand

2. Learn how to say NO - firmly + from your heart

When you are grounded and speak your NO clearly, then your YES becomes clearer as well. (Thank you @Sue Sutherland)

3. Be ok with whatever happens

Know that the trust + respect you demonstrate for yourself is what makes you YOU.

Love yourself knowing that being there for yourself is a great act of self-love.

And anyone who doesn't respect your boundaries, who doesn't first seek to respect you and then understand you, is probably someone you don't want around.

What better filter than this for discerning who's right / wrong for you!!

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Dating is not a numbers game - How to turn the odds in your favour

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Dating is not a numbers game - How to turn the odds in your favour

Dating is not a numbers game. ➕➖➗

I know.

I went on hundreds of dates and swiped thousands of profiles for 8 straight years.

Countless hours were spent crafting my online profile.

It only mattered so much.

I finally felt like I was taking control over finding a relationship when I really owned it.

And the IT here was me.

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Solo Tantra 101 - Polarity: Get the sparks flying

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Solo Tantra 101 - Polarity: Get the sparks flying

My first 3 years of learning tantra were when I was single.

I practiced tantra on my own.

I share with you a basic tantric principle 💥 that of polarity 💥 

Or the push pull of life.

The magnetism that draws you to another person for instance.

Steps to increasing + practicing Polarity:

1 Decide if you want to be in the Go or Flow state

2 Transition fully into Go or Flow (most people are in Go - I give tips on getting into Flow)

3 Practice being in the state you choose. Partnered dance is a great way to practice.

The Go state is one where you are focused, have a sense of direction and movement and at the same time be present enough to feel into where the person in Flow is and respond.

Those in Flow states dance and move around the Go state person. There is power in the flow state as one cannot exist without the other. And people in Flow must listen into the Go state person so that they can receive the signals from them. The state is one of receptivity and relax.

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Expand into new ways of being – how to be a brighter you

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Expand into new ways of being – how to be a brighter you

Louise shares her own experience with expanding out into the person that she is today.

And how she guides people through their own process of 'emerging' into a more balanced version of themselves.

Learn about:

- what it looks like when you experience a growth spurt (aka spiritual awakening)

- how to listen for what wants to 'emerge' when this happens

- and be with the feelings, thoughts and emotions that come with it

So that you can come into being a newer, brighter version of yourself instead of running away and pushing down what wants to come out.

We also speak about:

- expanded states of consciousness - from meditation to plan medicines

- and how to interpret the language and learnings that we experience in these states

So that new meaning can be brought into our lives.

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Learn to self-soothe – getting you back to good

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Learn to self-soothe – getting you back to good

Self-soothing is soooooo good. Because only you know exactly what you need to make you feel better.

And you are with yourself ALL THE TIME, so basically there’s always someone there to look out for you.

Learn 6 easy ways to self soothe and make life so smooth:
1. Gentle touch

2. Non-linear movement

3. Golden light + love

4. Positive words / affirmations

5. Community + synchronised movement

6. Hugs

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How to burn thru resistance + get the love you want

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How to burn thru resistance + get the love you want

Learn how to move forward towards what you really want in life with greater ease by overcoming your resistance to change.

We have an intense desire for something – strong love, a lasting relationship, more connection + pleasure in sex. ❤

It may be the thing that we want most in the world and yet when it comes to taking action to move closer towards what we truly want, we begin to resist.

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How to find calm when the sea of love is rough and tumbles

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How to find calm when the sea of love is rough and tumbles

We all get to a point in our lives when things feel too heavy to bear. When our breath draws short and our minds feel unable to navigate the twists and turns of all that is happening within and outside of us.

I teach a quick simple practice taken from mindfulness that allows all of the above to happen, but also creates some space and within that space some peace even as you hold, feel, and experience intense emotion.

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Love junkie or love cynic? This could be stopping you from being in (true) love.

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Love junkie or love cynic? This could be stopping you from being in (true) love.

Are you a ‘love junkie’? A tender hearted optimist who believes wholeheartedly in a starry-eyed kind of love that looks and feels like it does in the movies.

Or instead a ‘love cynic’? Convinced instead that NO one is the only ‘one’ you might ever know.

Shelby and I will discuss how to form a beautiful relationship full of love that lasts over time whilst knowing that nothing is ever perfect - junkies and cynics both this is for you.